This song plays a very important role in my life. This is the song that I listen to when I am angry and when I have given up and feel beaten and useless. I am the sort of person that likes life to be fair and just, but I am also enough of a realist to know that that will hardly ever happen. That is why I like this song, and the video in particular. It shows that life often isn’t fair, and it beats down people who do not deserve it. But it also shows that that isn’t okay. It isn’t right to feel marginalised and depressed and pressured to the point of destruction.
This song taught me that it is okay to need to vent and to seek help when you are struggling. Now it is one of the things that helps me when I am in that situation, blaring out the words as loud as my eardrums can stand and singing until I am hoarse.
But listening to this song gave me the confidence to start to forget what everyone else wanted from me. To grow up and say no to people who expected too much. Now the only person whose expectations I try to live up to are my own. And even that doesn’t always go according to plan.
I get tired of being pushed around and made to feel guilty and responsible for things that are beyond my control, and this song is often the relief I need to step back and start again. To remind myself that I am in charge of my life and I don’t need to take rubbish from anybody if I don’t deserve it. All I can do is try my best, and then I can say I have succeeded. And if that is not good enough for someone, then I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life.
It’s not easy, and it’s a long process, humans are socialised to seek approval from others, but it isn’t always what is best for someone. The only person who can make you feel down is you. ‘Rooftops’ made me strong and confident, and I am wishing you all the luck to find the song that does that in your own lives.